Keeping the Holiday Spirit Alive in Your Marriage
Do you love the holidays? Do you find yourself humming along to festive music with a little extra energy in your step? If you consider yourself full of holiday cheer, does that positive attitude show up in your marriage, too?
For many people, the holiday season feels magical because we know it doesn't last forever. In the blink of an eye, you are packing away the decorations and going back to your normal routine. But what if you could carry that positivity and kindness into your marriage all year long?
Here are four ways to use the holiday mindset to build a stronger relationship.
1. Showing Grace and Understanding
During the holidays, you might be a little easier on your kids. Maybe you let them stay up later than usual, enjoy extra treats, or skip a few household chores. Do you offer your spouse this same grace throughout the rest of the year?
This doesn't mean you should ignore all standards or boundaries. However, there are times when your spouse needs a little extra empathy. Whether they have had a long week or a stressful month, being a soft landing for them brings you closer together. By being understanding instead of critical, you remind each other that you are teammates.
2. Doing Small Acts of Kindness
The holiday spirit often inspires us to do thoughtful things for the people around us. You might pick out a nice card for a friend or help a neighbor shovel snow. These simple acts of kindness mean a lot, and they are just as important in your marriage.
In a long-term relationship, it is easy to get stuck in a routine and start taking each other for granted. Making an effort to show your spouse they are seen and loved—even through small gestures—has a huge positive effect. It reminds them that they matter to you every day, not just during the holidays.
3. Being Present in the Moment
During the holidays, many people put their phones away to enjoy quality time with family. You might ignore your "to-do" list for a few days to play games, talk to relatives, or just enjoy the lights and music.
When "real life" starts again, it is easy to let daily chores and work take over. While you still have responsibilities, it is important to pause and appreciate the moment. Being fully present when you are with your spouse is what makes "quality time" actually count. It helps increase intimacy and keeps your connection strong.
4. Showing Love and Affection
The holidays tend to make people more open with their feelings. We wish strangers a happy holiday and hug friends we haven't seen in a while. There is something about the season that makes us want to express love, but why stop when January comes?
It is easy to assume your spouse knows how much you love them. While they probably do, complacency can hurt a relationship. If you stop saying it or showing it, you might drift apart. Being intentional about telling your spouse you love them and showing physical affection is a habit that keeps your marriage secure.
The holidays are a fun, joy-filled time, but they end quickly. Instead of feeling sad when the season is over, think about how you can keep those good feelings alive. By practicing these four habits, you can strengthen your marriage all year long.